The Tool Box

It has been a long journey to here, many things has happened and not to be a bore, they are still continuing, but I came to realise that for most part we are NOT alone.
We all had our share of ups and downs over the last couple of months, and every time I felt that I was alone, someone came to the rescue.
This brought me to my "toolbox" theory.

The "Toolbox" Part One

As we start our journey through life we all start with an empty "toolbox", and the first tools that we have in our box we don't collect but rather is given to us, the family.

These are the tools, that in most cases stays in your box and takes up no space whatsoever. In most cases family is like the Gorilla wrench, ready for any size nut!
The Gorilla sometimes tightens the nut and other times gives it slack, any situation always and without fail.
 Family is also the Q20 (or (WD40) in the toolbox, correctly applied (in other words if you ask for advice and listen to it!) it can loosen any nut.
However, in many toolboxes the Gorilla is rusted, the teeth are broken and the Q20 can empty as we neglect these tools the most often! We don't treat them correctly and they become damaged.
Instead of just taking it out and refurbishing it some people (me included) are to afraid to touch it because we don't know how to fix it....but we forget, it doesn't take up any space, it will never break, just become damaged, but will never break!

As we progress on our journey we start to collect our own tools, these includes our skills, education, experiences, personality and our friends. Believe it or not, each day, each moment adds something to the tool box!
We carry this box with us and sometimes this box is so heavy that it feels as if it drags us down. We just keep on adding to the box, never looking in it, never evaluating the tools, just adding all the time, making it heavier and bigger.
As we come into challenging situations, we always want to fix things ourselves, because that is the nature of man, sometimes this works and you can patch or fix a problem other times the glue just doesn't want to work! So you apply more, increase the drying time, roughen up the edges all to no avail it just doesn't want to hold! This creates frustration and just increase the break as you take off more of the edges,  or the glue creates even more bulges! (Never even looking in the toolbox for the correct type of glue!

Realising You Have a Toolbox

Once the realisation dawns on you that you have a toolbox your whole life changes! For me it was a struggle, being chased by the black dog, circumstances that drew me like a moth to a flame, closer and closer to the end...
You need to sit down and carefully evaluate our life, "where am I heading, how will I overcome this next hurdle that was put on my path". If you are lucky you realise this by yourself as you sit and relax, taking stock of your life, or you may be forced into it by circumstances.
Then when you are alone, and if you are lucky you remember your toolbox! you rush to your garage and start to look for the toolbox, hidden under a layer of dust deep in a back corner.

Opening the Tool Box

So I started to look carefully at this "toolbox", weighing up all the "tools" inside, taking out all the tool and separating them into various groupings, "broken" , "serviceable", "neglected", "new" etc.
It was hard to do, as you realise that some of the tools you broke! and some of the serviceable ones are in dire need of attention!
You find, as you rummage through it that some of the tools you have are so outdated that they have no "use" at all, just plain junk! You ask yourself how did I let this happen?, how will I ever fix this?, the questions never stops!
The emotions that you unleash...

Well till next time...